You are a very talented writer. I subscribed but can’t pay yet. I found you through Chris B Writes (sp). It’s odd, but as much as I avidly follow independent media outlets on Substack on politics, I subscribe (free and paid) to writers who rarely write (at least not overtly write about politics!). To quote “The Reluctant Messiah, author, Richard Bach: “Perception, use it or lose it.” It’s old, (1977), but brilliant. Keep up the good work.
Thank you so much, that really means a lot to me. Please don’t worry about paid subscriptions. I’m just glad you’re here and reading. I appreciate your thoughtful words.
A caregiver’s silo is often opaque. Writing it to the world is one way to make the silo walls more transparent so you can see the other silos and know you do not labor with love alone.
It is so inspiring how you put in words what so many of us think and feel.
There are some compliments that, even though we understand where they are coming from, they don't feel like a compliment. They actually add some extra pressure on us caregivers...
The context in which people say it to me is different, but I despise when people say, "I could never do what you do." I find it othering and narcissistic. Thanks for another great piece of writing!
Thank you for such an honest, quietly vulnerable piece. There’s a particular loneliness in parenting a neurodivergent child... the kind that sits beneath the competence. I felt that longing for the kind of uncomfortable silence you can share with someone who truly gets it.
Excellent conveyance! I cannot imagine. So beautifully written! Thank you!
Thank you Melanie for your kind words and for reading it!
You are a very talented writer. I subscribed but can’t pay yet. I found you through Chris B Writes (sp). It’s odd, but as much as I avidly follow independent media outlets on Substack on politics, I subscribe (free and paid) to writers who rarely write (at least not overtly write about politics!). To quote “The Reluctant Messiah, author, Richard Bach: “Perception, use it or lose it.” It’s old, (1977), but brilliant. Keep up the good work.
Thank you so much, that really means a lot to me. Please don’t worry about paid subscriptions. I’m just glad you’re here and reading. I appreciate your thoughtful words.
Masterful writing. The isolation of the caregiver. A world of its own.
Thank you. Caregiving can feel like its own little world sometimes. I’m grateful it came through in the writing.
A caregiver’s silo is often opaque. Writing it to the world is one way to make the silo walls more transparent so you can see the other silos and know you do not labor with love alone.
There’s so much you can’t say in a parking lot, some call it managing with grace. But it’s hard some days. Thanks for sharing your world with us. 💜
Thank you Susan for taking the time to read this.
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It is so inspiring how you put in words what so many of us think and feel.
There are some compliments that, even though we understand where they are coming from, they don't feel like a compliment. They actually add some extra pressure on us caregivers...
I’m glad it resonated. Thanks for taking the time to read it!
"My hands always give me away, twisting together or clutching my purse like it might drift off if I let go."—Loved this line.
Thanks for reading Grace!
The context in which people say it to me is different, but I despise when people say, "I could never do what you do." I find it othering and narcissistic. Thanks for another great piece of writing!
Thank you for the nice words and for reading it!
This is painfully beautiful! Thank you.
Thank you Jane for the kind words and taking the time to read this.
What a beautifully written piece. I felt so much of this. Thanks for sharing and helping all of us mommas feel more seen!
Thank you for such an honest, quietly vulnerable piece. There’s a particular loneliness in parenting a neurodivergent child... the kind that sits beneath the competence. I felt that longing for the kind of uncomfortable silence you can share with someone who truly gets it.
You described it perfectly. The outside looks capable. The inside can feel very alone. Thank you for your message and taking the time to read my post!
Denise, you are in my head on this one. Wow.
That might be the best compliment, thank you!
This feels very real. The things we carry don’t always match the spaces we’re in. I appreciate how honestly you named that.